Have you been feeling strangely neutral? Unmotivated, uninterested, or unsure why the things that once lit you up now feel like distant memories? You’re not alone.
In fact, what you’re experiencing might not be burnout or laziness—it might be the sacred space between identities. It might be rebirth.
The Death of Who You Used to Be
We don't often talk about what happens after you let go of survival mode, but before your new life takes root. That quiet void between who you were and who you're becoming can feel hollow, confusing, and deeply uncomfortable.
This is the space where old goals no longer inspire you. Where your body craves rest, your mind feels foggy, and your energy is unpredictable. Where the habits, strategies, or systems that once worked now feel misaligned.
This isn’t regression. It’s resurrection.
You’re not lazy. You’re healing. You’re re-patterning your nervous system. You’re recalibrating to an entirely new frequency.
And it takes everything.
Side note, I go deeper into this on my latest podcast episode
Why the Void Feels So Uncomfortable
For many of us, productivity and performance were coping mechanisms. They made us feel safe, validated, useful.
So when you stop operating from force and begin choosing peace… the silence can feel deafening. The stillness can feel like failure. And the new desires you're meant to birth can feel too quiet to hear yet.
But here’s the truth: The void is not empty. It is full of potential. It is where soul meets surrender. Where integration replaces effort. Where listening becomes more important than doing.
Rebirth Is a Nervous System Event
This isn’t just spiritual, it’s physiological.
When you’ve lived most of your life in fight, flight, fawn,or freeze—true regulation can feel incredibly foreign.
Your nervous system has to learn what it means to feel safe in rest. To feel calm without numbing. To feel open without danger.
That takes time. And it takes more energy than we often expect.
So if your only desire lately has been to rest, read, listen to music, or do “nothing,” it doesn’t mean you’re stuck. It means your body is finally digesting years of tension and trauma.
You are rebuilding your foundation.
What to Do When You Don’t Know Who You Are Anymore
You don’t need to rush to define your new self. You need to witness that version of you.. To meet them in the mirror. In your breath. In your slowness.
Here are a few gentle ways to support your becoming:
1. Daily Self-Attunement: Each morning, ask: What does my body want today? Not your mind. Your body. Let your nervous system lead.
2. Practice Sacred Stillness: Instead of forcing inspiration, let it find you. Sit in silence for 5 minutes. Let that be enough.
3. Protect Your Energy: You’re more sensitive now. Less tolerant of chaos or inauthenticity. That’s not a flaw—that’s refinement.
4. Reframe Rest: Rest is creation. Rest is recalibration. Rest is resistance to a system that says you must always be producing.
5. Trust the Timing: The new version of you is arriving in layers. You don’t need to see the whole picture yet. That version of you will reveal itself through the smallest of choices.
The World Needs the You That Emerges from This
You are not here to hustle your way into a timeline that doesn’t honor your softness. You are not here to perform your worth. You are here to remember it.
And the world needs the version of you that is anchored in self-trust. That creates from overflow. That knows the power of the pause.
So if you’ve been feeling behind, off-track, or uninspired—take a breath.
This isn’t regression. It’s resurrection.
You are not stuck. You are becoming.
Let the rebirth be slow. Let it be sacred. Let it be yours.
Breathe deep & plan on miracles.
Oh I loved reading this so much Nikyla, thank you. "The world needs the you that emerges from this" - such an important thing to hold onto whilst in the void & things feel so uncertain/scary.
Thanks to Laura Tremaine for sharing this. I have been struggling to “name” this phase. What a gift to have stumbled across this today.